My husband (50M) is from a different country, and his family (especially his brothers) pressure him constantly to send money home. However, I (43F) am the primary breadwinner and the one who tracks our budget, including our mortgage, loans, daughter's private school tuition, car payment, and monthly expenses. We don't have a lot of extra to spare. Actually, we don't have any extra to spare, but his family doesn't (or won't) understand that. They think everyone in America is rich. Husband and I have had multiple long talks and agreed that we wouldn't send money to his family without discussing and agreeing on it, and we would never, under any circumstances, use a credit card to send money back home. I opened his phone the other day and just happened to see that he had sent his brother $1500 from his credit card. My immediate reaction was, I'm not paying that. I told him I am not paying off his credit card and he can figure it out himself. He has argued back that if his credit score is damaged it will affect our entire household since everything is half in his name. He has also argued that he works less to be available to care for our daughter, and I'm breaking the marriage agreement and devaluing his labor. He also had a bunch of reasons why his brother needed the money, but I'm so sick of his family taking advantage of us. I'm holding strong that I won't be paying any money toward that credit card and he can figure it out himself. AITA for not paying off his credit card?