I (F32) was recently approached by my childhood friend’s boyfriend (M32). For context, he’s a doctor, so it’s not like he’s struggling financially. He asked me and 14 other friends to contribute to her 30th birthday present. He said he wanted to be considerate of everyone’s budgets, that he understood that not everyone could always give the same amount, but still suggested a range of 25–50 euros. As the days went by, he kept adding more people to the group so that there would be more contributions. And said “he was allergic to people asking other people for money”. Eventually, the gift was a spa weekend and a bike. But when he brought up the idea of adding the bike, he actually said, “I know you’re thinking: he’s a doctor, he should be able to get her a Ferrari. I remember thinking not but maybe a second-hand bike. The bigger problem is that he never disclosed how much we (the friends) collectively paid versus how much he personally contributed. Since it was positioned as a “from all of us” gift, the lack of transparency makes me wonder if we essentially funded most (or all) of it while he got the credit. And on top of that, I wasn’t even invited to the actual birthday party, despite contributing. So now I can’t help but think he’s cheap – especially as her partner, and someone with a good salary, you’d expect him to take the lead with her 30th birthday gift instead of outsourcing it to her friends. AITA that I call him cheap?