I (23F) just got engaged in August of this year. We’ve been together for 3 years. My best friend Sarah (fake name) (24F) got engaged in March of this year. They’ve been together for 7 years. Sarah and I are long distance friends, and our friendship is filled with almost yearly trips to visit each other. We are so close that her fiancée actually asked me to come visit to surprise her at their engagement, which I did, in March. Sarah scheduled her wedding for June 2026. I am in her wedding party (she’s in mine too). My fiancée proposed in August. When we started thinking about dates, I was stressed for 4 reasons: I do NOT want to elope. My fiancée is military and may get deployed after June of next year. We will be moving states next July. I am starting grad school next August. I realized that my only options for a wedding were May or June, as any earlier feels too soon. I immediately thought of Sarah. I chose May so that our weddings would not be in the same month. The date that I chose is slightly over 30 days prior to hers. When I told her about our engagement, she seemed “fake happy”. I’m not really sure how to describe it, other than I know her, and something sounded off with her on the phone when I told her we were engaged. Then, weeks later when I told her the date we were considering, she instantly asked a bunch of questions about why May. I explained to her my reasons, and she suggested we wait until 2027, or just elope even though it’s not what I want. I told her it’s going to be May. She told me on the phone that she wasn’t sure she would come. After our phone call, I was upset. I was getting the sense that she was jealous. I sent her a text asking if she’d feel less stressed if we agreed that we both love each other but can’t go to each others weddings. She responded saying that she can’t imagine that, and that we would figure it out. A few days later, I received a text from Sarah. The first paragraph was how she was worried about money for a plane ticket. The next 5 paragraphs were about how she felt overshadowed by me, and that she felt like my wedding was more important than hers. She also said that since I had suggested neither of us attend each others weddings, it made her feel like I didn’t care about hers. Finally, she said it wasn’t fair that I scheduled my wedding before hers because she got engaged first. I responded and explained my reasons for May again. I also offered to pay for her plane ticket and let her stay with me here. Her only response was that she wouldn’t feel comfortable letting me pay for her plane ticket. (I’ve literally done this for her before) I really feel like this isn’t a money thing and she’s looking for reasons to not come to my wedding. So, AITA for scheduling my wedding a month before Sarah’s? And what do I do in this situation? She is my best friend, and even though I feel like she’s acting immature and unfair, I love her, and I can’t imagine either of us missing the other’s big day. Help!!!