I (29M, biracial) have been friends with “Daphne” (25F, white) for about 3 years. She came to my town for school, joined my friend group, and we got close. I admitted pretty early on that I had feelings for her, but I also told her I wasn’t in a place to pursue anything. Things got messy since she was on the fence and our friend group was toxic about it. During Christmas break she reconnected with a childhood friend, “Fred” (26M, white). When she came back she told me they were talking long distance, and eventually they started dating. I tried to be respectful and even told Fred upfront about my past feelings. When I met him, I thought he was cool. He and Daphne are really similar, while she and I are total opposites. Honestly, I was happy for them. Fast forward two years: Daphne moved home, I moved around, and she and Fred got married. Around the same time I met my now wife, “Sally” (26F, white). She’s amazing, smart, kind, creative, everything I could ever want. On a cross-country trip, Sally and I stopped to grab food with Daphne and Fred. Only Daphne showed up, saying Fred was sick. We had a nice time and Sally liked her. Later, I logged back into my old Snapchat for the first time in years and saw a request from Fred. I accepted, thinking he probably didn’t even use it. But when I clicked on his story, I was shocked. It was filled with neo-Nazi propaganda. Hitler speeches, articles about Jews and immigrants “ruining the world,” AI videos of a “perfect” society made up of only blonde, blue-eyed people (exactly how Fred looks). I’m biracial, light-skinned, curly-haired, and I literally burst out laughing in disbelief at how surreal it was. I texted Daphne thinking maybe his account was hacked. Nope. She admitted he really posts that stuff and defended him, saying it’s just to “start conversation,” that “it’s not as bad as it looks,” and that when he explains it to her “it’s different.” I was floored. After that our contact faded. Recently, Sally and I got married (we eloped, it was the best day ever). When I told Daphne, she said she couldn’t wait for our kids to be friends someday. Without thinking, I said, “Oh, I don’t think Fred would let that happen. Even if he did, I don’t think I’d want my kids around him.” She just laughed it off, but she still defends him. We live 2000 miles apart, so it doesn’t really affect my daily life, but I’m still shocked this is even real. So, AITA for saying what I did about not wanting my kids around Fred?