Hello all, I (F28) need help wrapping my head around this one. My gf (F30) of three years ended things with me over message while I'm abroad visiting family this week. Truthfully, visiting family is always a bit traumatic. I'm still doing a lot of work regards that but this message really was a blow to my mental health. To worsen she is accusing me of cheating emotionally on her. We used to hangout weekly with our friend. I did admit to her that I put him first during that time due to the fact that he needed both me and my ex's support. His ex cheated on him after 8 years (and with kids) together and married the guy 3 weeks after being in a relationship with him. She went and told me I cheated on her with him. Now, for context, I am a lesbian and only feel attraction towards women. I want to know if people consider this cheating? I honestly just always considered him an older sibling. I never had intentions nor did he. And again, I wouldn't even have attraction towards him. I still used to spend time with her during the week. I believe what triggered this was the fact that we learnt that our friend's ex used him again. And in a fit of rage my ex sent her a message. As a consequence, my friend's ex messaged me with screenshots of what my ex told her. Which I promptly responded that I'm not my ex's mother. Knowing fully well that things wouldn't end there as my friend's ex normally doesn't. I sent a message to my ex to not engage with her as it would backfire on our friend. She took it badly and told me that I always put our friend furst rather than her. Now, we have a weird arrangement. We were evicted and had to move to her parents' house and my only income is from gigs. I'm looking at other jobs at the moment (I'm also a student). She told me that she won't do my life hell but she doesn't want to see me or our friend. So, reddit, am I the asshole for supporting my friend? EDIT: I say that I prioritised him but truly that's too harsh of a word. I just made sure I along with my ex met him weekly. This being said, I prioritised her feelings, if she didn't want to meet him that weekend, we didn't (bare minimum here). And always spent time with her during the week. TL;DR: My ex thinks I cheated on her after supporting a friend through a hardship.