I am uncertain if I should share this, but I am having difficulty trying to justify what was being said to my 5 year old. I’m trying to gauge whether I am overreacting as a parent or if the comment was genuinely inappropriate, and I’d appreciate an outside perspective. For context, I recently reconnected with an old friend (60+F) after 14 years. The visit coincided with her boyfriend’s (65M) birthday party, and she invited me, my husband, and our three young daughters. We drove 1.5 hours to attend, excited to see her, meet each other’s families, and rekindle our friendship. When we arrived at their house, she introduced us to her boyfriend. His first comment was, “I hope you’re not leaving your kids here, I’m already taking care of three (her grandkids).” I responded with " What are you talking about? I thought I was picking up my girls tomorrow?! " assuming his sarcasm was meant as humor, though it struck me as an unusual first impression. Later, during the cake cutting, my 5-year-old, excited and playful, went up to the table and said in her usual silly, pirate voice, “I want cake!” My husband and I called her to stand by us and wait. At the time, we didn’t hear his response, but the next day, I saw a video posted on social media where he replied, “You know what, you aren't my kid!” While I understand some people use sarcasm, hearing that directed at a 5-year-old over a cake felt unnecessary. My children are spirited and playful, definitely not shy, but they are also polite. I want to preserve my friendship and avoid over-interpreting the situation, yet as a parent, I couldn’t help but feel uncomfortable and protective after seeing that exchange. Am I in the wrong for feeling this way? Am I taking this out of context? Should I address this to my friend? I initially thought about brushing it off, but when it involves my child, it takes on greater significance.