i lived with my best friends brother about a year and a half ago, and i had brought my cat, balthazar. i moved out 6 months ago to live with my best friend instead. i had left balthazar at bsfs brothers house because bsf already had 3 cats on their plate. TS to this weekend and i move back in with my mom, and brought my cat back with me. i gave a days warning that i was getting the cat (moreso hinting at it) and they tell me its a bad idea because balthazar had "bonded" with bsfs brothers own cat "rusty". i ignored it and took him anyway. a few hours later i get a text from bsfs brother saying, "In attempt to be the bigger person in this situation, I've decided to write this out and send it over as a sign of respect. I was curious about the request for cat supplies and despite all attempts to hold it off, you metaphorically spit in my face with "I'll get you a new cat. They're only like $50," after I cared for, became heavily emotionally attached to and paid for that baby to live with us and Rusty. That's low. What's even lower, however, is the manipulation and use of my younger sibling like de-escalation toy all so the peace would be kept when you so casually boarded my cat and showed no care for the wellbeing of either of their emotional states. By law, everything left in Jake's room is considered abandoned property, therefore, it can be considered repayment for all the food, litter and other expenses we put towards Balthazar in the six or so months we cared for him. I'm hurt that you had no empathy for them and treat pets like they are accessories to be so casually bought, sold and rehomed over and over, but I'm more angry and disappointed at the way you have treated my sibling. Respectfully, unless there is a fluffy black ball of love involved, please don't return to my property, as it can and will be considered trespassing by law." i wait a few hours before i respond, "Im sorry that this all happened and that I hurt you, it wasn't my intention. I hope as this settles down you can start to see my perspective a little better. if i had the option, the day i moved to lins i would have taken balthazar with me, so i promise i wasnt using you as a babysitter. chelsea/nana just had their hands full with the other cats. and i apologize. i am thankful for all the care that you did to him (and me, since you let me live with you), but it was never my choice to "abandon" him and now that im moving back in with mom, i have the opportunity to get my baby back. i am essentially losing entire family all over again and balthazar here is the only person i get to keep, and i hope you understand that. i am sorry how him leaving has affected you and jak, but the request to keep him is unfair" AITA???? i dont think i am