My ex, Mario (fake name) and I got a cat around a couple months ago. We had been having some issues (mostly with his mental health, me not being 'there' enough for him while I've been worn thin, emotionally burnt out, etc.)... but things got better for a bit. We had been talking for a while about getting a cat and I felt like it was the right time and it might be good for his mental health. So we went to the local shelter and found a surrendered calico named Peach (real name). She was surrendered because her owners didn't have the time to take care of her. Her notes said she loves attention, is a cuddlebug, and curled right up on my ex at the shelter. My ex has a part time job and is often home alone because I work full-time. At first it was 'his' cat, because he really wanted one, but it's mostly been me taking care of her. Anyway, I ended things recently and moved back in with my mom. Mario was away at work when I took most of my stuff (he knew I was leaving and wanted me to do it when he wasn't around). We didn't discuss ownership of Peach, but I packed her up with me to take to my mom's house. I am the one feeding her, taking care of her litter (he will leave it for over a week if I don't do anything), vet appointments that HE asks me to take her to, etc. Mario has so many issues going on that do not allow him to mentally and physically handle taking care of a pet. The only thing he's really done is buy her toys on occasion, but doesn't play with her or offer any enrichment. He will literally take her off his lap because he is 'busy' playing games. I feel bad taking her, and he's been messaging me very sad about it. But I think I would feel worse if she was ignored and neglected at my ex's house after being SURRENDERED by an owner that did the same thing to her. She's settled in well at my mom's house but both my ex and one of our mutual friends say I'm acting like an asshole for taking her. So... yeah. Am I the asshole for taking 'his' cat that he doesn't take care of?