Hello Reddit. I (19m) had an argument between my cousin (17f) about how my education will go moving forward. Where to begin? I was born and raised here in the Philippines. Went to school in the Philippines for about 6 years. Honestly, I can say that my years may seem golden in a child-like perspective but in reality, I was raised in a conservative Christian school and being out of the ordinary made you a "sinner" or "evil". However, I left the Philippines around 10 years old and moved abroad. I went to the Middle East for a couple of years and can say that my education was similar to the Filipino education system. I moved to Canada around 2019, and this was where my education flipped and I started enjoying the education there because it was more individualized and more friendly for foreigners alike. To me, the Canadian education was perfect. However, recently, I had to move back to the Philippines for visa-processing related issues (To my fellow immigrants, if you know, you know) and life seemed okay. I very much still loved and missed Canada and I believe one day that I will get my life back on track once I get there. For context, I now see the Philippines as just my birth country and nothing more. One of my flaws that I am doing my best to avoid is internal racism. Growing up with many Filipinos around me realized that if you do not fit their standards or you do things that are out of norm, you are deemed weird, crazy, or nasty (especially the older generations). However, coming to Canada made me enjoy being true and authentic to myself because of other cultures that aren't Filipino (especially after finding out about being gay). Anyways, we now jump to my argument between me and my cousin. My aunt, who visited my grandparents and my parents, told me that I could take short programs about high demanding courses/things I want here while waiting on said visa. However, I just awkwardly told her that I'll think about it. I went to my cousin and asked her if I should do it. She said I should because it is better to have something than nothing at all. If you read earlier, you already know how I feel about the Philippines. I still told her that I am not interested and that I can wait until I go to Canada and apply for uni. Then, she got so pissed and brought up our one cousin (15f) who my relatives are debating on sending her to college because of being a girl. My cousin told me that not remembering that is such a dick move and that I am a dick for not taking this privilege. However, I feel that I do not want to get my education here in the Philippines because of how I was raised in schools and the culture difference, in general. I need some thoughts on this situation. Am I the asshole or is my cousin the asshole here?