I 25f have an 18month old daughter who has been consistently using the potty at home with very few accidents for a while. When we signed up with this daycare a few months ago we were told in no uncertain terms that they would be happy and able to help us in her potty training and just to communicate with the staff about it. On Monday I took her to daycare wearing her panties and explained that she had not had a single accident in 3 days and went over her signals in detail. Letting them know that she typically uses multiple signals. The employee said that since my daughter is so young and is not clearly verbally communicating yet (she says paba repeatedly) it was too difficult for them to pick up on her signals and that they’d be putting her in a pull up. I let her know that I understand they have other children to look after but that the director told me that they would be able to assist and i brought 6 changes of clothes. She then told me that it is “different in a childcare environment” and “we can’t always watch her as closely as mommy does to understand the signals”. I left feeling upset and talked down to with the situation but trying to understand their side of things. When I picked my daughter up the director was there and told me that the staff had mentioned I was pushing too hard for potty training and that my daughter had 3 accidents within an hour so they put her in a pull up. The director apologized. Admitted that the staff doesn’t like to help with potty training, and said that they’ll try a little harder moving forward. I took my daughter home and took her dirty clothes out to wash and there was 1 pair of panties and 2 pairs of pants. So it doesn’t seem like she actually had 3 accidents. When I dropped her off on Tuesday I reminded them that she was wearing panties and told them I do not want her wearing pull ups unless it’s nap time or they run out of panties. The staff essentially began telling me they felt like I was pushing too hard and that I don’t understand there are other kids there. I repeated that i understand completely that there are other kids there, but if they are watching my child really at all it is hard to miss her sumo squatting and clutching her private parts/frantically walking around on her tippy toes. I said I’m not asking for perfection and I understand that accidents happen but that if they don’t at least attempt to take her to the potty she is going to revert and think she only has to use the potty at home. When I picked her up that evening she was in a pull up again. At drop off this morning I reminded them that she needs to stay in her panties and they should only be using pull ups during nap time. Aita for pushing the issue so hard? I feel like I am advocating for my daughter because she can’t yet