new throwaway because i don’t really use reddit and my friends know my main. also, I'm sorry if this is written weird, i’ve never posted on here before! So I (22f) am engaged to my fiancé (23m). We’ve been together since college and yeah, relationships are hard but I really love him. However, he has the bad habit of trying to be funny when his words aren't. A few weeks ago we were at his friend’s wedding, and he got asked to give a toast. I was proud at first because he’s not usually a serious guy, but then he made it into this standup routine? Instead of just saying nice things about love or marriage, he made this whole joke about *our* relationship. He said something like “well if you think marriage is hard, just look at me and \[my name\], we fight like cats and dogs but somehow we still haven't ended things yet.” Then he said he only proposed so I'd stop nagging him. Everyone laughed but it felt so tacky and honestly kind of humiliating. I didn’t say much after because i didn’t want to ruin the night, but i told him later it hurt my feelings. He just shrugged and said i was being sensitive and that people thought it was hilarious. Now with our own wedding coming up he keeps saying how he can’t wait to do his speech and ROAST me in front of everyone.”I told him no, he’s not doing a speech at our wedding if he’s just gonna make jokes about me or us. He got mad and said i was trying to control him, that i don’t “get his humor,” and that i should trust him. But i jjust honestly don’t trust him not to embarrass me or say something degrating. I told some of my friends and they said speeches are supposed to be fun and this isn't my thing to control, while others who have seen the way he talks in public say my concerns are valid, so I don't know whether I AM overreacting or not. So aita for telling my fiancé I don't want him to do a "funny" speech at our own wedding?