I’ve been friends with a group of girls since HS. One M (F27) I was particularly close with. Also in our group was her best friend E (F27) who I never was fond of because I found her dramatic. After finishing my undergrad I moved to Rome to do a masters. While there they told me they would be visiting Italy and wanted to do stuff with me. I assumed they were staying in Rome for a while and said great, and asked them to fill me in on their plans so I could see if it worked around my school schedule. They didn’t, and ended up staying in Rome just 2 days and then traveled across Italy. I was hurt that they had implied they took this trip with me in mind, but then didn’t account for me, but said whatever as it was ultimately their trip. After Italy I moved to Japan. I got a job on the southern most island. They already had a trip to Japan planned before I moved so I wasn’t expecting them to change their plans to visit me, but said I can fly down to Tokyo (where they said they would be staying the whole time) over a weekend to see them. They said great, but when it got closer to the trip they told me that the only weekend I could see them they were going to USJ Osaka. For me to go to Osaka would have been vastly more expensive and take more travel time so I passed. I was hurt again but said whatever. Finally, M texts me in December and tells me she and E are coming to Japan in April and going to Tokyo and Kyoto. I happened to move to a prefecture between these two cities and offered to let them stay at my house for a few days. I also said multiple times that I was free (unemployed) and wanted to go around Japan with them. I just asked they kept me in the loop so I could plan things out for myself. M said she was super excited and said of course. I made the mistake of then saying I had extended family visiting around the same time who also wanted to visit Tokyo and Kyoto and joked I’d be an expert after these two visits. Months go by with no new info. One day E texts me and says bluntly “we’ll be staying with you for (one night).” Then M texts me about tattoo coverings. I ask them what’s going on with the trip and M says they booked everything already. I said I thought I was joining them, and E responds bluntly again with the dates they will be in Kyoto. M says she thought I didn’t want to come because I was going to Kyoto with my family already (I wasn’t) and to book at their hotel would cost me over $500. I said nvm, and that this was the third strike. I told them I wasn’t a hotel and they were no longer invited to my house. M apologized and said she always tried to account for everyone’s emotions, and she had assumed I was going to Kyoto with my family and wouldn’t want to go twice so soon. I said I was tired of being led on. I later apologized for reacting so strongly, and said I did so because I miss my friends. E said it’s not their job to keep me from being lonely, and that they always try and account for me. I cut contact after this.