AITA my girlfriend said that she was having bad period cramps and I went to the store and I got her heating patches, pads, ginger ale, pain medicine and I went to Subway and got her a sandwich. But before this we were on the phone and I told her I was bringing it and she said I don’t need a caretaker and that hurt my feelings and I ended up hanging up the phone. I still took the stuff to her and I said you know it hurt my feelings that you call me a caretaker. I just wanna you know be there for her. She always says stuff like this and her reasoning behind it is “ l tell everyone the same thing because I have a fear of being rejected socially so l try and minimize things if I need help and do it myself.” I’m NOT everyone. I’ve been with this girl for over a decade. Skip forward we ended up getting into a fight because I just dropped it off and I left you know I didn’t really have anything to say I didn’t wanna bother her cause I already knew she was in pain and and I know she called me weird and I called her And I’m talking to her and I talk loudly like even when I’m frustrated. I am Neurodivergent. and I have a problem picking up on social cues so even if she was joking, I didn’t know or anything but now I tried to explain myself and not working anymore so I’m just tired. Idk what to do. I literally don’t have anybody to help me and I’m frustrated :(. If I’m wrong please lmk. I’ve even apologized for what I said (which was it hurts very much to be called a caretaker and I just wanted to love you) and idk what else to do. I just wanna be there for her and help her. Update: she’s a great girl I promise. She just got out the hospital about a week and a half ago & I jumped before when she needed something and I jump even quicker now if she needs something. I only got it because she named the stuff and I was already out and periods are horrible things so sorry to any individual with one. I just wanted to help. I just got very upset which is me shutting down because she called me a caretaker. Edit: I also named what I got her because she asked for pads and bc. I just got heating pads patches because she said the heating pad she has had her sweating because it was huge. I just wanted to know was I overreacting about being told she doesn’t need a caretaker. I don’t see myself as a caretaker but just caring and trying to make it easier for her.