So me (42m) and my girlfriend (40f) recently invited our third (29m), who we’ve been both seeing for the past year to come live with us, because he got evicted. The moving happened really fast because it came as a total surprise, but he didn’t get evicted for anything this post is about. Not that they can evict you for shitting with the door open. He’s a good roommate, definitely not my worst, but some things have started to really bother me… Recently, I came home after work and went to go to the bathroom and the door was open so I ASSUMED it was empty, but no, our boyfriend was peeing. I said I was sorry because I assumed it was a mistake so I just went upstairs. It kept happening… The worst was when my parents flew all the way from Boston to visit. My dad was in the bathroom downstairs, so I directed my mom to the upstairs bathroom. There he was, shitting with the door open. And guess what, my MOM apologized… I got a little heated and told him to never poop with the door open again. I talked to my girlfriend about it. She said that she didn’t care about him going to the bathroom with the door open, but she didn’t like how I acted, which is fair. I dmed him that I was uncomfortable with him going to the bathroom with the door open, especially when guests are over. He just said “k” and I thought this was the end of the saga. Then I came home with some of my friends, we were stopping at the house to pick up something I forgot to pack for the concert we were seeing. As we approached the living room we all passed an open door to… you guessed it… the bathroom where he was peeing. He literally made eye contact with me over his shoulder, and one of my friends said they saw him zip up. He totally could have been able to tell that people were in the house, he could probably hear us from a mile away. When I came to him he said it was okay because keeping the door open lets any stink air out faster than keeping it in a tight closed space. I feel like he can turn on the AC, but then he was talking about being claustrophobic and I didn’t even know what to say to that. I got really frustrated, and asked for some space so I could ask my girlfriend about this. I thought all this was pretty rude, and wanted to talk to her about what we were supposed to do next. I wanted to at least CONSIDER getting him to live somewhere else, and she flipped out. She was saying that she actually preferred the way he did it because of transparency? Which confused me obviously, and then she said that she felt like she never had to worry about if he was texting other people (outside of our arrangement) behind closed doors. She pulled out something that had happened more than three years ago about me texting people outside of our triad. I asked why she was defending him by throwing me under the bus, and she said it was because he wasn’t as judgmental as me. AITA? If I let him move in with us in a moment of need, why can’t he just close the damn door for me?