I am seething with rage right now and I don’t know what to do. I (24F) live with my mom (51F) and always have, we’ve had a close relationship my whole life, I’ve never known her to act against my benefit. Recently, my dad (54M) got ahold of a car that’s the same make and model as my car I have now, which I love, the only difference is that it’s a newer year. My car is paid off and in my mom’s name, and she also pays my insurance as well. I keep asking if she needs any help with it or if there is anything I can do to lessen the load of the bills, but she insists that she is okay, so the way I help out is by having an emergency fund for things that break in the house (tree limb falling on our power line and damaging wires in the house, AC unit going out constantly due to clogged lines that need to be unclogged, when she needs extra money in her account so she doesn’t get overdraft fees, etc.). I also do home repairs and household chores as much as I can with my job, and life has been good for years with this system. My parents had a terrible divorce, custody was always difficult for them and they have resented each other for how everything happened, so I have to act as the messenger between the two. This car would be the first big gift that my dad would help out with for me in my life, and I would pay the car insurance while he worked on paying it off while using my previous car to help with paying off the new car. My mom was on board from the very beginning when I told her of the plans and we had everything in the works. Yesterday while I was at work, I received a call from my mom saying she wanted to back out of the deal all together. She did not want to transfer the car over to my dad, she refused to do so, and because of that, I would not be receiving the car that my dad has because he would have to give it back to the dealership. I was vivid and yelled at her and asked why she would be so supportive this whole time only to back out the week that I finalized my insurance with my dad for the new car and the transfer would happen. Now my dad is having to pay for insurance on the car until the contract time is up. I am so angry and let down about it because I would finally be getting a new car after all my years of having an older car that I do take care of. I told her that she was selfish and cruel for doing this to me and she claims her does it to protect me, but I’m a grown woman, I can handle myself and anything that comes my way. I talked to my best friend about it and they said I went too far with how I told my mom she was being unfair about the whole process, and that she’s my mom and I have to respect that. AITA? EDIT 1: So I’m here to try and give some more context on the situation. My mom did not buy the car, my grandmother did and gave the title to my mother to put me on her insurance when I was 16. My dad got it as a gift for me graduating college, I just got my bachelor’s back in May. I lived with my mom to cut back on cost of attending out of state college to get through school without debt, which she fully agreed to. My dad does help out with stuff for me like helping to pay for college but it’s very complicated to explain my relationship with my dad, pretty much his job made him travel a lot to make good money when I was a kid so I never got much of a relationship with him. During my final year of college I got grants and scholarships to help me finish off without needing help from anyone. All of your comments are still greatly appreciated though, it is helping me see a lot of points of view. 🫶🏻